ENFJ Compatibility Analysis
There are 12 ENFJ participants in total, which makes them the lowest participation rate in Extraverted Intuitives, tied with ENTPs. A lot of ENFJs know an INFP and an INTP in their social circle, yet only half of them know an ISTP. ENFJ’s results of best theoretical matches seem to be diverse, as most of them choose a couple of them at a time. Many of their closest companions are INFJ. More than half of these participants also interact with other INFJs and ISFPs. There is one ENFJ whose social circle knows all 16 MBTI types.
ENFJ's Opinions on The Theory
There is at least one ENFJ who voted on each of the accuracy ratings for the compatibility theory, with the highest being somewhat inaccurate, which suggests that ENFJs don’t think that the theory is very accurate. The ENFJs who thought the theory to be very accurate state that they get along most with INFPs. The other individual expressed that they felt called out, and their most common MBTI type in their friendships is INFPs. Romantically, they end up with INTPs, INTJs, and ISTJs, which fit the silver pairing theory. Their best friend is an ISTP, which fits the bronze pairing theory, too. One of the participants who rated the theory 4 out of 5 voiced that they disagreed with INTP being in the silver pairing and thought it should be ISFP as the silver pairing for ENFJs; they also thought that INTP and ISTP should be bronze pairings instead. The other participant expresses their reasoning that they do see patterns in friendships, but don’t think every friendship/relationship fits the theories due to many other factors, such as connecting with a lot of ESFPs who don’t fit the pairing theory at all, via having the same hobbies, interests, etc. They express that preference plays a role since INFPs are their most compatible type due to befriending most INFPS they meet, and a bond is quickly formed. They think that ISFPs suit them well since the chemistry can feel similar to INFPs for them, except the friendship seems more practical and based on shared hobbies and physical experiences. They noticed that the bronze pair is an opposites attract type of pairing, which can be a hit or miss for people generally, in which they expressed that their own experience with an ISTP close friend was a great connection in the beginning, but eventually fell out due to differing values.
One of the individuals who rated the theory to be neither accurate nor inaccurate states that the theory is probably constantly changing. The other individual who rated it a 3 states that MBTI isn’t a great tool when measuring compatibility, they believe that “If you understand and love yourself, then you realize that you can interact with anyone and fall in love too. If you are sufficiently aware of your partner's needs and desires for each other, then regardless of your type, you and your partner would be good for each other. The ENFJs who voted the theory to be somewhat inaccurate express their reasoning as not generally liking the MBTI types in their pairing theory, despite having two people who meet the theory. Some also expressed that the pairing theory doesn’t apply to getting along with their relatives and haven’t seen these pairings work based on not seeing these pairings work out in other people, nor have they personally experienced a good connection themselves, despite having romantic interests in people that were their gold or silver pairing. One individual voices that relationships are complicated and wouldn’t be accurate based on an algorithm, and pairings such as ENFJ and INTJ or ESTP and ENTP would exist. The last ENFJ who rated the theory a 2 out of 5 spoke that due to their inferior Ti being their aspirational function, they would learn more from thinkers than feelers and they tend to get along better with other types that have their shadow functions (example being ESTJ) compared to INFP since they may feel unreciprocated due to the differences between Fi and Fe doms in an INFP x ENFJ relationship. In addition, they think the pairings with the most growth are the ones where two functions are shared, regardless of whether it is a judging or perceiving function, hence they love INTPs. They finally added that “friendships can exist between people with completely different functions, so long as respect and understanding exist,” since their own friendships are proof of that. Finally, the last ENFJ who rated the theory to be very inaccurate spoke that they have never witnessed these pairings before nor have been attracted to their supposed compatible types, the ones that they have been romantically interested in were either INFJs or INTJs.
Who do the ENFJs think they are compatible with?
ENFJs' top choices for their theoretical matches include ENTPs, INFPs, and INFJs. The ENFJs who chose INFPs are because one wants an introvert-extrovert balance so they would be listened to for once, rather than always having to listen to others, enjoys and contributes to having deep conversations with, as both are intuitives, both being feelers allows them to understand each other’s feelings and communicate about it easier, and a judger-perceiver relationship would balance their judger organized tendencies. Additional reasons include that they can be themselves around them, and they tend to have an emotionally deep connection with them. Two ENFJs chose both INFPs and ISFPs due to their best friends being one, and stated that they are loyal, compassionate, and willing to commit to a relationship. One participant chose ENTPs and INTPs since they can make up for the areas that they lack. Another selected ENTPs, ENFJs, ESFJs, and INTJs since they are direct and effective in communication, understanding, tolerating, open to sensical material, intellectually driven, adventurous, and supportive. An ENFJ chose INFJ because one is their superego and complements each other’s ideas well. A participant chose ENTPs, ENTJs, INTPs, and INFJs due to INTPs having each other’s aspirational functions, where they can learn from each other and can arrive at similar conclusions with different thinking processes. They chose ENTPs because their high Ne and Ti come off as charming, are funny, and are someone you can have fun with. Their reasoning for ENTJs is due to having great past experiences with them, who are very supportive, and have common functions of aux Ni and tertiary Se. Finally, they chose INFJs because of have similar thinking styles, can support each other, and have a lot of close friends who are INFJs personally. One chose ENTP, ENFP, ESTP, and ESFP since they just like extroverted types that complement them. Another picked INFJs and INTJs because they help each other grow, learn a lot, and just seem to naturally understand each other. There was one ENFJ who stated that they get along with all types.
Who Selected You, ENFJs?
Thoughts on Sensor vs Intuitive?
Most ENFJs believe that sensors and intuitives get along, while some don’t believe that they can. One of them states that they can express that knowing MBTI in depth enough allows you to get along with almost any type. Another expresses that if two people share the same perceiving function, closing the S and N distance is easier, and that two parties have a lot to learn from each other as long as they are patient, understanding, and respectful. They add that it's beneficial to have a friendship with someone who thinks differently from you, as long as both people have some core values in common. Two participants state that they have had great past experiences with other sensors and have seen other sensor and intuitive couples working well together. An ENFJ voices that “anyone can get along if they share similar views in important areas and are respectful in how they communicate. Cognitive stacks don't make someone have a specific belief system, religion, view of science, etc., just how they process information. The internet tries to turn it into personality astrology instead.” Another expresses that they can get along even though there are clear differences between the two, and the way some sensors think can be difficult for them to understand.
Disclaimer: These are anecdotes from some ENFJs' participants
Some ENFJs express that they dislike sensors' black-and-white thinking. One of the participants who does not think they get along is due to their personal experience of trying to have abstract conversations with sensors. Still, the sensors are unable to understand or are not interested in joining the abstract conversation. One ENFJ believes that they typically don’t, since intuitives can be terrible at explaining their intuitive way of thinking in a way that sensors can understand, and that sensors often struggle at understanding them. They believe that the two can get along if an intuitive wants to make it work with a sensor but not the other way around, since it's difficult for sensors to understand intuitives.